So, I may have been thinking about writing a post about this for a while, and I still don't have my thoughts totally worked out, certainly. But, there's this thing that we do where we post the most awesome versions of our lives online. So, I know I'm not the first, and certainly won't be the last to think or talk about this, but it's something that I've really been reflecting on.
I think that there is also this fascinating obsession with documenting everything online, and I don't really know the best way to go about dealing with the urge to keep the world updated on everything you do, responsibly.
For me and my friends, it's been a conscious choice to not bring our phones with us when we go do something memorable, or to make a point to take a picture when we get there, but not necessarily throughout whatever it is we're doing. When we are persistently documenting our most memorable outings and adventures, I fear we're trading in making actual memories for documentation that we were there, or that the sunset was beautiful, or the concert was amazing.
would like to add here that I bsolutely contribute to this thing that happens. You can see this on my Facebook, Instagram feed, or the photos I posted here from the Fourth of July. I get it--we want to commemorate the best, funniest, most memorable things that happen. But also? We work at communicating to our friends online the most appealing version of our lives. But eventually, the posting of only the best parts of the day, over and over again, makes it look to people keeping up with us like those awesome things are our whole life. There are never any upsetting things, or bad hair days, or attempts at and failures to get something to go awesomely.
Take, for example this picture I posted on the Fourth:
How super cool, right!? Now. I get it. No one looked at this picture and thought, "Oh man. How cool is she?" I know. I made a pie. Whatev. But here's what ended up happening with that:
Yep. Look how perfect that ended up. Ohhhhh wait. And you can probably guess that picture didn't make it onto Instagram.
We post what makes our lives looks awesome and cool and perfect. When really? Sometimes the pie doesn't set.
I love seeing other people's super fun, great, everything's-working-out pictures, but ultimately, we spend a lot of time comparing our situations to the ones we see online. And that can lead to a dangerous cycle.
Will I keep posting the pretty pictures on social media? Probably, but I think I could use a posting of an occasional pie turned pudding situation.